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through the cultural stigma around women and beauty and
women and aging?
Does it really lift you up to have a face lift? Is that the
answer to one’s happiness? Possibly yes for some and not
Maybe I’d feel better about myself? But then again,
would I? Would I feel like I was giving in..not following
my truth; that being, I am who I am as I am..physical ﬂaws
and all. Is it time to simply focus on my essence, my soul
and not my physicality? Easier said than done.
Truthfully, this conﬂict began as early as my twenties.
Should I embrace my ﬂaws or rid myself of them? Hmmm..
I remained unsure and at that time decided to table this
issue for a later date.
Of course this conﬂict appeared again when in my
forties and ﬁfties. I was in a relationship with a man who
wanted me to change some things about my face and body.
I was so hurt by this, but I stood tall and said “that wasn’t
happening”. I actually said, “if YOU change ‘this’ and you
know what I’m referring to, then I’ll change ‘that’”. It was
a rebellion of sorts against him; although even then, I needed to hold on to my true self, inside and out; but did I think
How will I ever reconcile this issue? Or will I ever
reconcile it? Aging naturally or aging with help. That’s my
dilemma and possibly yours as well.
Maybe it will be a conﬂict that never gets resolved..
There is one decision that I HAVE come to..and that
is..we must lighten up on our self-judgments and our judgments of others. Let’s allow others to be who they are and
do what works for them.
As for me, I assume that I will just continue to internally negotiate the divisiveness within me and maybe..just
maybe..that’s just ﬁne.
I’ll certainly keep you posted..
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