CCChat-Magazine 29 2 - Flipbook - Page 3
Editor's Notes
ABOUT THE
EDITOR
Min Grob started
Conference on Coercive
Control in June 2015,
following the end of a
relationship that was
both coercive and
controlling. Since then
there have been 6
national conferences as
well as smaller events.
CCChat magazine
originally started out as
a newletter and has
been going since 2017.
Min’s interest lies in
recognising coercive
control in its initial
stages, understanding
how to identify the ‘red
flags’ of abusive
behaviour before
someone becomes
more invested in the
relationship, as that is
when it will be much
more difficult to leave.
Min is also a public
speaker and speaks on
both her personal
experience of coercive
control as well as more
generally of abuse that
is hidden in plain
sight.
Let's Grow The
Conversation!
To contact Min:
contact@
coercivecontrol.co.uk
Website:
coercivecontrol.co.uk
For every person who dies by suicide,
twenty will attempt it.
This has been the hardest issue of CCChat I have put
together. I thought it would be easier. I gave myself a
long lead-in time and it HAS been ten years, this month,
since I nearly died, but it turns out that I had completely
underestimated the feelings that were still inside me.
I didn't call it a suicide attempt then and I wouldn't call it
that now, but for over two hours he screamed at me to kill
myself. Even when I was clearly distraught and sobbing
and on my knees, it continued. This issue was supposed
to shine a light on coerced suicide, where someone
doesn't want to kill you but wants you dead and yes, that
happens far more often than you'd imagine and when
someone has worn you down to that extent, it's not a
mental illness that nearly breaks you. It's them.
In these ten years, I have thought a lot about the events
that led up to that night and spoken to many who share
similar experiences, and what has become clear is that
the subject of domestic abuse and attempted suicide is
hugely misunderstood and under researched.
This subject is much bigger and more personal than I had
ever anticipated and so I have found it easier to split this
issue into two parts and include the lived experience of
victims who have thought of and/or attempted suicide in
Part Two. Min xx
Making The Invisible Visible