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to manage it, and manage it better and
every year we manage it better. I
suppose that I watch things and I
watch things online, and I hear things
and I go to workshops, and I listen to
people talking and sometimes it feels,
to me, like I’m back in 1997, when it
just felt overwhelmingly powerless
about how we were going to make
M: I can’t remember who said it but
I’ve been seeing this a lot recently, the
expression ‘Everything’s changed and
yet nothing has changed’
N: Yes and we need to get the police
onboard, police who understand and
we also have to understand the
constraints of the police. Every day I
hear a perpetrator or a victim saying
that the perpetrator is innocent as they
had an NFA.
M: I've heard it a lot too and then the
perpetrator ends up thinking the law
isn't going to touch them and that's a
really demoralising place for a victim
to be in.
N: Absolutely. It feels like that.
Sometimes I think what is going on?
“I’m quite vocal and so I say things and I think we need to call it out
if it’s not right, like the family courts."
As you know, I’m quite vocal and so I
say things and I think we need to call it
out if it’s not right, like the family
courts. They are not always saving the
best interests of the victim and this
isn’t in a small area, this is around the
country and I think that all services are
finding this and it’s heart breaking to
know that a woman’s been brave
enough to get an injunction and then it
doesn’t work because the police
haven’t got a copy of the order or there
is no further action (NFA).
Perpetrators who get no further action
from the police think that they are
innocent and will tell us, well the
police don’t believe you, why should
anyone believe you?
M: So, I’m going to wave MY magic
wand and transport you to your
fantasy place. Where’s your fantasy
place and what three things would you
take with you?
M: Yes, that’s something I’ve come
across time and time again. NFA is
equated with innocence
M: That would be amazing. It's been
wonderful talking to you. Thank you.
N: My fantasy place would be an island
on the Maldives. Can I take all my
grandchildren as one? I’d take books,
I’ve read so many amazing books. I
would take my daughters as well! I was
going to say food.
M: Well, hopefully there’ll be food
N: And then I’d love to come back to
no violence and abuse.
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