The Doula Issue 39 Autumn 2020 - Flipbook - Page 24
Well, can you imagine the excitement of receiving
an enquiry to be a birth doula to triplets! Of course
I contacted the mum straight away for a chat and
to arrange an informal visit. Then reality hit! I knew
that having another doula on board would be a great
asset - so many babies and not enough hands…
I called the mum again to chat about having another
doula and she was interested. So then I contacted my
colleague, Sara Benetti to ask if she was interested
and really I knew it would be a no-brainer! Sara has
experience of twins natural birth and I just knew she
was the perfect partner as we often work together
offering shared care and back up for each other.
So Sara and I met with the parents of the triplets and
we were hired by the end of our visit!
We had a great first antenatal meeting with the parents,
discovering how the triplets were a huge surprise for the
family. It was not an assisted (IVF) pregnancy and the odds
of naturally conceiving triplets are in the region of one to
few millions; additionally only one out of 6,000 to 8,000
triplet pregnancies is spontaneous.
We were so excited especially as the parents were
planning a natural birth for their babies, possibly in water.
We supported them by talking through their options,
their birth plan, negotiation around mum’s care and what
they were and were not willing to accept in terms of
interventions. As soon as we left the meeting, we drew up
an on-call rota as mum was nearly 30 weeks and 35 weeks
is considered full term for triplets. This worked well for
everyone involved as both Sara and I had some holidays
booked, but it also gave mum and dad peace of mind that
at least one of us would be around if the babies decided to
make an early appearance.
However it all worked out so well in the end. Even though
the parents were very keen for a natural birth, at the same
time they were fine with a highly monitored pregnancy
and agreed to induction as soon as there were signs that
one of the identical twins was not growing as much as the
other. Both Sara and I were available when mum went into
hospital at 35+2 for ARM to get labour started. Labour
progressed quite quickly and baby Fynn swam into this
world at tea time, followed half an hour later by his twin Iain
on dry land and breech. Half an hour later Evan burst into
this world, again breech. All babies were fit and healthly and
paediatrics who were standing outside the door, were stood
down. Having 2 doulas was a dream, as when the babies
were born and placed with dad for skin to skin, one doula
remained with mum for reassurance, and the other doula
supported dad and took some videos and photos.
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It really was one of
the most incredible
experiences of all of our lives,
including the consultant and midwives, especially mum
and dad, and of course for Sara and myself. Full credit to
mum, Kate who really is an amazing goddess, a very quiet
labourer who likes to be left alone! It was amazing to see
the identical twins, Fynn and Iain being born, followed by
the biggest baby, Evan, all fraternal.
We kept in contact with mum during her stay in hospital and
visited her when she returned home. Luckily I have been
able to continue to support the family on a weekly basis as
a Family Support Volunteer with a local charity, Tinylife (until
the covid-19 pandemic).
Kate & Austin (parents): “Having the support of doulas for a
multiples pregnancy was very important to us as we strove
to have a natural birth with minimal interventions.”
A wee postnote to say it was not all smooth sailing…
the parents were always told only one doula would be
allowed in the birthing room, and we always reassured them
that we would both be there if they wanted us to be there.
So we contacted the Head of Delivery Suite beforehand
to explain the situation, and when mum contacted us to
say she wanted us with her, we had the confidence and
reassurance to go and be with her together. Only once did
a midwife say to us that we might have to leave, to which
we replied that we would leave the room if mum asked us
to. To be fair I think they were just a bit concerned if the
paediatric team had to come in for each baby that it would
have been a very tight squeeze, but thankfully that never
happened! Other than that, the atmosphere in the birthing
room was so peaceful and calm throughout the arrival of 3
gorgeous wee baby boys!
Anne Glover is a Recognised birth and
postnatal doula supporting families in Northern
Ireland since June 2015. She is also a certified
HypnoBirthing Childbirth Practitioner.