Gay London Life | May '24 Edition - Magazine - Page 46
Topher
Talks
Before I start, and you get those
enjoyment. Address any concerns
lovely willies in your mouth – let me
openly and consider suggesting a
clarify that this guide discusses giving
shower together if needed.
oral sex without a condom. Which is
Communication: My favourite word
my preferred way to do it. Therefore,
with sex. Ask them what they enjoy and
trust and communication are crucial.
be clear about your own preferences
Try and be as comfortable discussing
and boundaries. Both of you should
sexual health as openly as you
enjoy it. Don’t forget that.
discuss your likes and dislikes.
Taste: Adapting to the taste of
And, if you ARE using a condom,
sperm can take time. You can always
I’m someone who gets approached
follow the same tips but adjust for
consider bringing a flavoured lube into
a lot by ‘newbies’ to sex. People
more pressure, suction, and keep
the mix, but the more you do it – the
who have fantasies about
those teeth out of the way.
more you’ll get used to it. Some people
exploring sexually, but perhaps
Now, onto my style of head –
love the taste – I don’t.
haven’t had the chance or the
focused on delivering pleasure and
Just Breathe: Having a clear (or as
confidence to take the first steps
showcasing skill. It’s about pleasing.
clear as it can be) airflow is vital during
yet. I am always asked “How
Because I love doing it.
giving head. Practice breathing
do I give a good blowjob?” and
Introduction:
though your voice and/or timing
the answer isn’t simple as good
Forget seeing blowjobs as mere
breaths during strokes – around and
head comes in a lot of forms and
foreplay; they’re an act to relish, just
over/under the penis.
includes a mix of.
as satisfying as penetrative sex. Oral
Cum: Head doesn’t always have to
sex is intimate, using lips, tongue,
have a conclusion and ejaculation
giving good head, this month. A
saliva, and teeth (where appropriate)
isn’t the sole goal for everyone. If you
basic guide for beginners. Think
to deliver pleasure. It’s about control,
don’t want them to cum in your mouth
of it as your starting point, a
technique, and yes, practice.
– tell them.
blueprint to build upon. The key to
Preparation:
Go-To Moves: When giving head,
enjoying these experiences with
- Arousal is important. Allow yourself
remember what makes a penis
your partner? Communication.
to get excited too.
orgasm. Grip, strokes, moisture, and
Ask what they like, learn from your
- Clear your nasal passage; no one
the sensation of ‘sex’. So sumptuous,
experiences, and yes, I repeat it
wants a runny nose mid-blowjob.
curling, hugging grips that are nice
often: communicate.
- Relax your jaw; practice circular
and wet. Remember, mother nature
motions to adjust.
designed a penis to orgasm from
- Check for any rough edges or shap
penetrative sex – so turn your mouth-
bits on your hands, lips, and nails.
and-hands into an orgasm device.
- Stay hydrated; a moist mouth is
Love it: One of the best ways to give
essential.
great head is to enjoy doing it. Allow
- Most importantly, communicate
yourself to love everything about it,
with your partner about desires and
and their body, and the experience will
boundaries.
be elevated – I assure you.
Things to Consider:
Watch: Pay attention to how they
Jaw & Teeth: Getting comfortable
react to certain moves, motions,
with a penis in your mouth takes
pressure, and use this as your guide.
practice. Experiment with objects
Top tip: To see how your partner(s) like
to simulate the experience, and be
their penis handled, watch them wank.
mindful of your teeth, especially if you
Look at where they grip, how they hold,
have ‘fangs’ like mine.
the pressure the use, and how they
Gag Reflex: Practice makes
interact with the frenulum – the back of
perfect and is the only way to help
the dickhead. This is the most sensitive
desensitise your reflex. Focus on
spot and noting how they behave with
breathing techniques and gradual
their own can give you a great blueprint
exposure to objects in your mouth –
for amazing oral. Bring these observed
wide and long.
notes into your head game and they’ll
Deepthroat: Techniques like using
feel like you’ve read their mind.
fingers to relax your throat muscles
Conclusion:
and controlling your breath can aid in
Remember, there’s no pressure to
deepthroating.
master everything at once. Enjoy the
Sloppy: Spit is your sworn ALLY in
learning process and learn with your
delivering pleasure, trust me. If you
partners. Sex should always be fun
run out of spit, trigger extra saliva
and fulfilling for everyone involved
production by gagging.
– unless you’re in a consensual
Hygiene: Clear communication
roleplay where one partner is being
about hygiene is vital for everyone’s
solely pleased.
So, I wanted to write about
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