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How and When to Tell Your Kids about Sex
4. Prosper in Marriage
Sexual chastity contributes to a successful marriage. Solomon is clearly commending the sexual restraint of the beautiful b­ ride-­to-­be when he describes her
as “a garden locked is my sister, my bride, a spring locked, a fountain sealed”
(Song of Solomon 4:12). Similarly, the writer of Proverbs 5 commends the
wise young man to “let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of
your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with
delight; be intoxicated always in her love” (verses 18-19). Paul alludes to similar
blessings in 1 Timothy 4:3-5, where he instructs us that God created marriage
“to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth. For
everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received
with thanksgiving, for it is made holy by the word of God and prayer.”
While premarital chastity is no guarantee of having a good marriage, the
evidence that it helps is indisputable. For example, a recent series of research
studies6 suggests that delaying sexual intimacy is strongly associated with
more positive outcomes in terms of relational satisfaction and sexual satisfaction on ­long-­term ­follow-­up. An important if older ­sociological study of
marriage7 found results that Christians will appreciate:

The single most powerful predictor of a good marriage was whether
couples pray together regularly.

Couples able to pray together and enjoy good sex together were the
least likely to divorce.

Cohabitation before marriage approximately doubled the degree to
which couples themselves believe that they are likely to get a divorce;
this reinforces numerous other studies that show cohabitation as bad
for marriage rather than the preparation for it that so many claim.

The higher the incidence of premarital sex, the lesser the likelihood
the couple reported high sexual satisfaction and the greater the likelihood of infidelity in marriage.
You want the best for your children. Teach them by your words what
they need to know as rules for living and show them the proper path to
follow by the way you live your life. Pursue the high goal of equipping
and empowering them to enter adulthood capable of living godly, wholesome, and fulfilled lives as Christian men and women, whether as Christian
singles or as Christian wives and husbands.


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